36, Unemployed & Single… Society Says I’m a Failure 🇨🇳 Life in china
About this video
A 36-year-old woman in China shares a quiet day of her life, pushing back against social expectations that she should have a stable career, marriage, and home by now. Viewers join her for a simple breakfast, a trip to the night market, and the meditative process of making gourd crafts. It’s a gentle, honest look at finding meaning and peace outside the traditional markers of success.
Video transcript
Hi, I'm Coobo. I live in Chandu, China. No job, not married, no house, and no car. In many countries, that might simply mean life hasn't gone as planned. But in China, being 36 is supposed to mean you have finger life out. At this age, you must have stable career, a family, and maybe children. I have none of these things. To many people, that means my life is a failure. It's very convenient and healthy. Just stir it well and it's ready. Eating this in the morning is very soothing for the stomach. Then let's make some coax seed water to drink. drink. You
must use dry roast koi seed. I have already stir filed it. Its function is to dispel dampness. It's mainly because chandu is located in a basin and the climate is quite homemade. homemade. This helps me expel that dampness from my body. In China, there is an invisible timeline for life. for life. Graduate around 22, Graduate around 22, find someone to marry before 30, and then have children, build a successful career. China created a very clear definition of success. A stable career, marriage, children, house and car. Those things became the scorecard of
life. life. When someone reaches 36 without most of them, people naturally assume something has gone wrong. My relatives often tell me, "You are not getting any younger. getting any younger. You need to someone by your side." Someone even say, "If you don't have a job, then get married first. You can always find work later." That logic has never made much sense to me. When I first lost my job, I couldn't sleep. I kept opening job apps only to see the same words again and again. Under 35 only. Under 35 only. Every time I saw that, my heart sank a little.
little. I honestly thought my life was over. The quilt is too big. I have to take it up to the roof to dry. Oh, other people are already airing out their cil. At the beginning, I stayed at home most of the time or went to the library. I started every day because I was terrified of falling behind. I saw that if I worked hard enough, everything would go back to normal. But the more anxious I became, the less I knew what to do. Some days I completely broke down. Eventually, I realized I couldn't keep living like that. living like that. So, I started giving
myself small reasons to leave the house. In China, most girls wear a sand protection jacket when going out in the summer, just like I do. I have recently bought a lot of crafting supplies online. supplies online. and addresses. and addresses. Another package arrived today, so I went to the delivery station to pick that up. You need to go through the underpass beneath the railway. There are already customers at the roadside hot pot store. This night market gets very lively at night, but it's too early right now, so there is no one around. While wait, let
me show you around this net market. net market. Tables and the chairs were stacked up behind these doors. In the evening, this place is packed with people. extra. If I didn't have a job, having a store wouldn't be bad. What I eat is wolftoothoth potatoes, a very local snack in mine called lauto. My appetite isn't great in the summer, so I have been eating simple meals. I have been thinking about setting up a straight store to earn some income. I bought some gourds and crafting materials. start learning to make high-end decorations. Once I have made a bit
more, I will go out on the street to sell them. Life is too short to spend all of it trying to meet other people's expectations. Maybe I don't have the life people think I should have. Maybe I don't fit the timeline society planned for me. planned for me. But that's okay. If there's something I want to do, I will stop waiting for the right time. There are still so many things I haven't expected yet. Life moves forward one day at a time and maybe that's enough. Maybe I'm behind, but I'm still moving forward. Thank you for watching and for being part of
this journey with me. See you next time.
